Success Amplifies What is Already There
Posted: Tuesday, November 10, 2009
by Paula Gregorowicz
The Paula G Company
Are you waiting to win the lottery to solve your money problems? Hoping that one big business deal or career achievement will allow you to finally feel like you've "arrived"? If so, you may be disappointed because success will only amplify what already exists within you.
I'm not saying that succeeding and achieving won't feel great - it often does. And, well thought out goals that align with who you really are and what you really want is one of the most fulfilling parts of life's journey. However, what often makes them feel hollow or sets you up for a letdown is expecting that somehow an achievement is going to fundamentally change who you are and how you experience the world.
I was watching Alanis Morrisette do a mini interview on the Sundance Channel program Abbey Road recently. She shared about her success as a musician, rock star, and actress. One of the greatest lessons she learned about herself while becoming super successful is that success only amplifies what is already there. If you are at war with yourself, it gets that much more intense.
If you're an overachiever you may have found yourself reaching a goal but still not feeling good enough? You know - like the Olympic medalists who pout like a spoiled kid because they ONLY won the silver medal. Now I "get" wanting to win the gold, but a silver medal in the Olympics is nothing to sneeze at. Well, I did the same sort of thing in my life - graduating "only" 4th in my class or playing a recital piece perfect except for one small passage. I was already feeling badly about myself and only beat myself up more because I was chasing some perfection that didn't exist.
So just think about this in your own life. Think about a time when you had a goal you were oh so sure was going to "make it all right" - the next promotion, raise, etc. It feels like an external goal will sweep in like faerie dust and make everything great. Think about your life just after you achieved an important goal you had set. Did your life fundamentally change? Did your way of being shift at its core? Did self-sabotage and money woes vanish instantly? I think not! Why? The one constant before and after was YOU. As I say over and over - wherever you go, there you are. There's no escaping this fact.
So if success only amplifies what is already there, does that mean you shouldn't have goals, desire more wealth, or take action to fulfill your dreams? Absolutely Not! What it does mean is that you can have more of what you want RIGHT NOW by working from the inside out and becoming more of the person you most want to be today. The real secret to this win-win is not only do you get more of what you want right now and find yourself happier and more fulfilled, but you also grease the rails for achieving your desires. The real super duper win in all of this is that when you do achieve your desires you are amplifying what you really want instead of simply turning up the volume on what you don't desire.
Copyright (c) 2009 Paula Gregorowicz
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Paula Gregorowicz, The Paula G Company, helps women get more comfortable in their own skin so they value who they are and what they offer and as a result experience greater success and meaning personally and professionally. She empowers them to greater clarity, confidence, and courage to live life by their own design. Learn the "5 Steps to Turn Your Fear into Freedom"
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